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If you haven’t read Donald Miller’s new book, A Million Miles in a Thousand Years, I highly suggest you do. That aside, I’m going to talk about what I’ve learned from Miller.

I’ve enjoyed Miller’s previous books to date, my favorite being Searching for God Knows What. I guess he really got noticed after his best seller, Blue Like Jazz, came out. Each book seems so different that I find it hard pin down just who Miller is. When I first read Searching he seemed like a recently renewed Christian getting excited about Theology all over again. He couldn’t contain himself, and that really edged me on to get excited about it as well! That might be why I loved the book so much. It woke me up from my God slump.

Then I read Blue and was thinking how Miller had started to think about Christianity from an outward perspective. ‘Nonreligious Thoughts on Christianity’ was a pretty good tag line for this collection of short essays. It seemed like a cool modern/Godless take on what the human condition is and why we do, in fact, need God. I say Godless, not because it is in opposition to God, but because he writes the book from a nonreligious standpoint. It allowed me to build upon my foundation for my faith in Christ. I think it also allows non Christians to connect with his points a lot better. I was later surprised when I found out that Blue was written first.

After To Own A Dragon came out, I got acquainted with how I learned what a man is. I can’t tell you how many “be a man of God talks” I’ve been through and think, ‘Wow, that was a waste of my time.’ Don’t have sex before marriage, don’t beat your wife, don’t be a fool, and always watch them sports! Hoo-rah! Wow, something tells me there is something more to this whole man of God thing than a bunch of dos and don’ts. And isn’t there a better way to learn these things? Enter Dragon. Rather than just put a bunch of rules down, Miller explored how he learned what a man shouldn’t be through his fatherless home and later, what a man should be through his psuedo-Dads in his older years. I’ll tell you, this book made me appreciate my Dad a whole lot more. It also taught me how to identify what I was learning from my Father(heavenly and earthly). No “man of God” talks needed.

So, A Million Miles came out. And it didn’t disappoint. Tackling another topic, Miller explores how to make one’s life better. He takes what he has learned from writing stories and applies it to his own life. What is a story? A story is a character who wants something and overcomes conflict to get it. I find myself watching movies and wonder why such awesome things don’t happen to me. Why don’t I get entrusted with a ring that will save the entire world? Why aren’t I the One that has the power to manipulate reality and save the human race? Well there are easy answers to those…But seriously. I fall in love with all these characters that undergo amazing journey’s, learn who they are, fall in love, and change their personality dramatically. Why can’t I get the same in my life? What am I missing?

Bingo, conflict. A story is not about a character who wants something and gets it. They go through hell to get what they want. Sometimes they lose other things they want in the process. That’s why the story is so good. Would Raider’s of the Lost Ark be as good if Indy just followed a map to the ark in a tomb somewhere and that was it? NO! He fought Nazis, braved snakes, got saved from poison by a monkey, killed giant sword man, and finally had to survive the ark’s wrath. How does this conflict start? Why the inciting incident of course! That point in the story where the character can’t turn back. After Frodo has seen just what will happen to his Shire if he doesn’t destroy the ring. After Neo gets woken up from the Matrix and realizes his world was a facade.

Miller started creating his own inciting incidents in his life. He signed up to ride his bike across the USA, and he did. He told a friend that he would join him to hike Machu Picchu, and he did. He started a non-profit for mentoring fatherless boys while he couldn’t afford it, and he got sponsors and is now on Obama’s task force. He drove out to Illinois to meet his father that deserted him as a child, and is establishing a relationship with him. This is something I’d like to have in my life. Instead of sitting around wishing cool things would happen, I want to go do them. I was thinking that maybe I need to create some inciting incidents of my own.

So, I am.

Inciting Incident #1: Rock Harbor
Ever since I came to UCI I’ve felt out of the loop with Church. I couldn’t make it back to DFCC every Sunday, nor could I still be involved with The Burn youth since I wasn’t there on Wednesdays or come to all the events. I was really involved in DFCC my later high school years, but I just got farther and farther away until I wasn’t really needed. Not that there was any blame. I mean I went off to college, so they needed to find other volunteers. Well, here I am making a new Church home at a church in Irvine called Rock Harbor. DFCC will not be forgotten, but it’s time. While I have been attending Crusade at UCI for a while, it’s not the greatest in spiritual growth. It’s awesome to meet other people around campus, but you just can’t compare to a Church Community. Missing the involvement of past church, I’ve decided to take the plunge! I’m applying to be a Jr High youth volunteer! I can’t count the ways that Mike, Amy and Nathan helped to shape my life into what I am today, and I hope I can do the same to some kids over here. I want to be heavily involved with a Church again, so I’m signing up to hang with the youth. Conflict can be read as college.

Inciting Incident #2: Girls
I’ve been single for a while, but I think now I’m ready to mingle. Having utterly blown a relationship chance last year, something was revealed to me. I have never really asked a girl out before, without knowing if they would say yes prior to asking. Is this lame? Girls, you tell me(please tell me!). I want to start a relationship with a girl again, so I’m gearing up to ask one out. Conflict can be read as college, fear, girl’s answer.

Inciting Incident #3: Spent Time
So, this quarter at UCI has been my hardest one yet. Usually my classes are split up into coding classes and and other classes which can include writing or just tests. This quarter, I am taking all computer oriented classes. Two are are studying/information, Algorithm Analysis and Artificial Intelligence, and the other two are more coding oriented, Language Pragmatics and Digital Graphics with Opengl. However, the AI class is quickly bringing coding into it’s homework assignments as well as its regular reading and quizzes. This is new for me. Usually my homework on the same schedule, either due during the week or on the weekends. With this split I have homework due during the week and the weekend. Every time I finish one set, another is assigned. This is new for me in the sense that I don’t get much of a break between the old and new homework. At least I don’t have to write papers, that’s a relief. Anyway, with all this homework and school I’ve decided to finally re-evaluate my spent time. I want more time to do what I want, namely inciting incidents #1 and #2. On top of my job, I’ve been primarily involved with 4 clubs on campus. Campus Crusade for Christ, Invisible Children, Video Game Development Club, and Dumbledore’s Anteaters. I’ve decided to basically axe the last two from my tentative schedule, atleast for this quarter. Not that I don’t have a blast quoting Harry Potter to death with some other fellow Potter nerds, but sometimes priorities need to take over. I want to start having more time to do what I want, so I’m going to cut some time out of my schedule as well as start focusing more on homework to finish earlier. Do what I want can be read as inciting incidents #1 & #2, learning guitar, and free time. Conflict can be read as wanting to attend, doing homework in a facebook free environment.

Inciting Incident #4: Sleep Early
And a final thing that I am really looking forward to making myself do, is sleep earlier. Ever since this summer I have been stuck on a 2 am bedtime. While it’s kind of fun to stay up late, it’s not so great when I have early classes or work. Thankfully, I’ve haven’t had early classes this quarter but I have a feeling this won’t last. So I better take care of my sleeping schedule before it really hurts. I’d like to go to sleep and wake up on different days, so maybe head to bed before midnight. I can wake up early and do homework in the morning to make up for the time that I would usually do stuff. I want to start sleeping early again and waking up at a reasonable time, so I am going to start going to bed early and wake up if I need to finish something that can wait. Conflict can be read as the internet, college, friends.

Wow. How is my story going to unfold? Will I fail to accomplish all of these? Maybe. But succeeding isn’t what makes the story.

Friday Night Lights was a great movie and had an awesome story, but they didn’t win.

If you are wondering what to take away from all of this; Go read some Donald Miller. He’s changed my life in multiple ways.

Now, I gotta see about this girl…

EDIT://7/15/10–adding this in to qualify for a contest to go to Miller’s Living aBetter Story seminar.  Heres to hoping I win!

Living a Better Story Seminar

2. Tell us a little about how you think the seminar might help you out. You don’t have to get detailed, just let us know specifically what you’re hoping to get from the seminar. This will help us cover all our bases as people come to Portland.

Well since writing this post I guess inciting incidents 1 & 2 worked out pretty well.  I’m a leader at the church I attend over here by UCI called Rock Harbor and I love it.  I love the kids.  I’m getting ready to leave for summer camp in August and help leading a lifegroup in October.  Sure the conflict is still college, whether I’m struggling to finish a project or finding time to study while I attend my leader activities, but you know what?  I find the time somewhere.  I routinely overcome the conflict because I want/love the leader position so much.  So, about that girl…I did ask her out.  I totally did.  And she knew it was coming, which petrified me.  You know what she said?  Well, she didn’t say yes.  But she also didn’t say no!  ”Ah HA!  There’s my loophole!” I thought, “Still didn’t get turned down.”  Honestly I thought that was it for a week or two, and it ended with me not going out with her.  Funny how asking someone out can prompt a non-romantic relationship, well for her anyway.  I was still very interested but had to keep telling myself she already said no, or didn’t say yes.  Well that lasted 3 months, and then we started dating.  And we’re still dating.  It’s great.  If I didn’t overcome that conflict I would have missed out on a great friendship and romance.

Inciting incidents 3 & 4 are the ones I’m finding hard to muster.  I guess you could find some sub-iniciting incidents in there that include guitar learning, working out, tennis, basketball, and free time in general.  Not saying that 1 & 2 are perfect, I could always use some drive to keep them changing for the better.  Sometimes I find myself getting complacent with a change half way, and then thinking “Oh cool I started it so it is done.”  I need help to finish these plans.  Miller’s book got me aroused enough to want some better plot lines in my life.  Miller’s blog got me through the planning part of my new script.  But I need help in executing it.  And that is where this seminar comes into play.  I can’t drive from California to Oregon for the conference during school time so this is really my one shot at getting there.  At the very least, if Don reads this could you drop me an email or a comment?  Encouragement is always helpful

Anyway, here is to hoping.